With the ongoing genocide and atrocities happening in Palestine, it can feel profoundly difficult to celebrate joyous occasions such as weddings, birthdays, and even Eid. The constant exposure to heartbreaking images and reports of suffering has a significant emotional impact on us. We witness daily the devastating consequences of violence: children losing their parents, parents losing their children, and entire families being wiped out in mere seconds. The scale of the tragedy is overwhelming, with thousands of men, women, and children in urgent need of medical care.
For those who are physically unharmed, the psychological toll is equally severe. Many will require extensive therapy to process the trauma and disruption caused by the violence and loss. The emotional and mental scars left by such experiences can be profound and long-lasting, impacting their ability to rebuild their lives.
In light of this immense suffering, celebrating personal milestones or festive occasions may feel inappropriate or insensitive. The contrast between personal joy and the widespread grief of others can weigh heavily on our consciences. We are left grappling with how to balance our own celebrations with a deep sense of empathy and solidarity for those enduring unimaginable hardships.
Celebrations in Islam
Eid
It is important to remember that in our Islamic tradition, Allah has commanded us to celebrate Eid as a day of joy and gratitude. The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) observed Eid by wearing his finest clothing, applying perfume, and attending the mosque for prayer.
As you celebrate Eid, take time to reflect on the significance of these two days of festivity that Allah has bestowed upon us. Eid is not merely a time for personal enjoyment; it is an opportunity to worship Allah and express our gratitude to Him. Islam encourages us to celebrate with moderation and intention, not with excess. Eid allows us to spend quality time with our friends and family and give back to those in need.
Weddings
It is a sunnah to get married. If you have found someone and want to get married then you should. In fact the Prophet Mohammed (peace and blessings be upon him) recommended all of us to complete this noble endeavor.
“The Messenger of Allah said: ‘O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding chastity, and whoever cannot then he should fast, for it will be a restraint (wija’) for him.'” [Sunan an-Nasa’I, 3209]
This hadith highlights the importance of marriage in Islam. If you are financially able and have found a suitable partner, it is highly recommended to get married. In a world filled with numerous temptations and haram influences, marriage serves as a protective measure, helping to shield you from committing serious sins.
Again, it's important to remember that you don't need an extravagant celebration. A simple nikkah can be just as meaningful and fulfilling. The essence of the event lies in the commitment and intentions behind it, not in the scale of the celebration. Keeping it simple and straightforward can be a beautiful way to honor the significance of the occasion and also be mindful of what’s happening in Palestine.
Other Celebrations
In all of our celebrations, it is crucial to understand the deeper purpose behind them and to ensure that our celebrations align with what is pleasing to Allah. Being mindful of this can help us celebrate in a way that honors both our faith and our values.
Within your celebrations you can take time out to remember the people of Palestine with the following actions:
Donate: You might consider having a smaller celebration and use the extra funds to donate essential food and supplies to those in need.
Dua: Take time during your festivities to make dua (supplications) for the people of Palestine with everyone present.
Raise Awareness: You can use your celebration as an opportunity to raise awareness about the situation in Palestine and encourage others to contribute to humanitarian efforts.
Educate: Educating those present about the history and current struggles of Palestine can help foster a deeper understanding and inspire collective action.
By incorporating these practices, you ensure that your celebrations are not only joyful but also purposeful and aligned with the values of compassion and support for those in need.
Cultivate Hope
If you are still struggling with how to cope with being happy whilst others are suffering, remember Allah is in charge and He is taking care of those suffering.
“So verily, with the hardship, there is a relief. Verily, with the hardship, there is relief” [Quran 94:5–6]
Even if you are in an extremely difficult situation, you will find ease in other areas.
“And whoever relies upon Allah — then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent.” [Quran 65:3]
“Do not lose heart nor fall into despair! You shall triumph if you are believers." (Quran 3:139)
“And will provide for them from an unexpected source; God will be enough for those who put their trust in Him. God achieves His purpose; God has set a due measure for everything.” [Quran 65:3]
We have witnessed countless videos highlighting the unwavering faith of the Palestinian people, who, despite their immense suffering, continue to hold steadfast in their faith and call out to Allah. Their resilience and devotion serve as a powerful reminder that Allah is always with the believers. In times of hardship, their trust in Allah remains unshaken, and their perseverance in maintaining their faith is truly inspiring.
So the question to ask is: if they can remain hopeful in Allah despite facing such severe trials, why can’t we? It is essential to find a balance that allows us to live our lives while also supporting our brothers and sisters. We must avoid falling into compassion fatigue or burnout. When this happens we won’t have the energy to do anything.
Finding a way to maintain a balance between taking action and living your life will enable us to stay engaged and supportive without being overwhelmed. As the saying goes, you have to put on your oxygen mask first before putting on someone else's. This balance ensures that our actions remain effective and our spirits resilient, allowing us to contribute meaningfully while continuing to manage our own well-being.
And remember Allah is in charge.
May Allah hasten the people of Palestine to victory and freedom. May He always protect them.
